Organized Americans , inscrutable Indians

Before I came to the land of "milk and honey" , I was told by a friend to read the "Inscrutable Americans" .....a book journeying through the mind set of an Indian guy in USA......

Nothing what I experience here matches what the book endorsed.......American's are very organized, in the sense , every day is slotted into compartments, each minute justified ......and it unsettles them if things don't go according to the plan......there is no concept of "jugaad".....rules are meant to be followed.....what is the point otherwise??? there is no "workaround".......
A very organized set of people......and given very much to politeness and grace....

Then we have us.....the lack of "jugaad" is very irritating.....be it any institution...we try to find loopholes....ways to enter the organization in ways which an organized mind cannot think of...because of artificial limitations of rules and conduct.....

It' beautiful to see the two opposing forces merge and entwine in Boston where I stay.....The americans surprised at the resourcefulness of the Indians and the Indians wondering whether there exists such a place where things get done in time and people actually honour their commitment.....

The other day my roommate expalined a beautiful concept...in which destiny of an individual doesn't depend on him alone......its also the effect of the collective or group to which he belongs.....sort of a corollary of the "butterfly effect"......i.e. the triggering and happening of significant events by apparently uneventful and insignificant trifles......

USA to some extent has made me lesser of a misanthrope than I was.......maybe its the collective karma of the country.......here oppurtunity is not gained by hiding the event from a fellowman....rather it is thrown open to all....and since the americans respect individualism......the person who stands out the most wins......since he has the potential to bring change to a sleeping society....it is the iconoclast who is revered.......the fear of non conformance melts into the sense of doing things differently.......where the society doesnt punish you for being radical.....

Not to say less about the collective indian Karma.......friendships bred in the soil of the indian subcontinent cannot be withered away by even the harshest chills.......friendship which blooms with no ulterior motive.....but only for a few.......a place where doing nothing "akarma" among the mendicants is revered.....achievement is not everything....being part of a flock is acceptable...nay encouraged......as safety lies in not standing out but merging.....

So what is the right way.......on one side are the people who live life dynamically.....but lose out on relationships...on the other hand we have people who are blessed by the gods as regards family and relationships.....but do not propel the society ahead.......

The more I contemplate , the more I realize the way lies in being a hypocrite........why is it wrong to change your views everyday.....what has the world gained by steadfastedness......Being a hypocrite is not wrong...its just conforming to the current trend of events....being malleable ..to extract more out of life......what is life ...if not a set of contradictions.....people married to spouses who they dont care about for their entire life...people hurting the ones they love the most.......isnt it the only way to behave in a life where being steadfast just makes you passe.....